Well, it took me forever to have a chance to sit down and write this post, but now that I have finally gotten to it, you will likely get a novel. So, here it goes, Mommy and Nicholas Vacation 2012:
Nicholas had an absolute blast! I often fall into the trap of thinking that if I want to give him a special treat I need to take him to a fun museum or go out to dinner, but a trip on an airplane to Grandma and Grandpa's house and then up to see Alice was a million times better than the visit to Sesame Place I tried to make happen for years with no success. He really truly is a sweet kid and so enjoyed spending time with people he loves more than anything else we could have done for our vacation. (On a similar note, he is crazy excited about his birthday on Saturday, but not about the idea of presents. He is bouncing with anticipation because all of Joe's family will be in New York . . . and he thinks they are all coming
for his birthday.)
Nicholas also surprised me with how much he remembered about both my parents' house and Alice's house. It had been 11 months since he had been at my parents' house, which is 1/3 of his life, and he hadn't been to Alice's since September, but that didn't phase him. On the plane on the way to Maryland he started asking if we'd see the two dogs at my parents' house (the dogs live next door) and he remembered that the dogs were black, although he couldn't remember their names. And on the drive to Alice's house he kept talking about wanting to play in the pretend house in Alice's room.
Anyway, so on to our trip itself. At my parents' house we spent some time gardening, took two hikes, played a bunch of board games, read books, did puzzles, and created a new game that involved crashing toy cars into Duplo structures and yelling "accident, accident" before having a fireman on a motorcycle rush to the scene. Actually, looking at this list, all but the last one are things that are things that are just so fundamentally essential elements of my family. It really is fitting that my parents introduced Nicholas to real gardening (there are no worms in the potting soil we use on our deck).
Nicholas revelled in what to him were new and exciting activities, while I revelled in the security and comfort of being home and the nostalgia that comes from watching Nicholas read the books and play with the puzzles and games that I remember clearly from my childhood. I tried explaining to him at a couple points that such-and-such a book was Uncle Andrew's favorite or that the sleeping bag he was using was Uncle Peter's when he was a little boy, but that concept was completely lost on him. And both the historian and the sentimental mother in me absolutely loved playing a Huckleberry Hound game with Nicholas and my mom that had been my mom's as a kid.
When we were kids we would moan and complain about going on hikes (although that could sometimes be moderated with carefully chosen trails that allowed for lots of rock climbing), but there were two days each year where we knew we were hiking and we weren't allowed to complain--my mom's birthday and Mother's Day. And so taking a hike on Mother's Day has become a tradition. We actually ended up doing a longer hike the day before, but we got out for a short one on Mother's Day as well.
We then drove up to see Katie, Wes, and Alice, and Nicholas and I both enjoyed the comfort of being with old friends. Alice and Nicholas had a complete blast! They were hilarious together. I wish I had thought to take some videos because the still pictures don't even come close to capturing their dynamic. Think hysterical laughter. On an endless loop.
They just cracked each other up. And this was true about just about everything, but the one that really got them is when we put on Babe for them. The idea of a talking pig gave them constant fodder. If the laughter died down for a minute, one of them as if on cue would say "a talking pig" in this high-pitched hysterical voice and they would be besides themselves laughing again. SO MUCH FUN!
Alice was also great for spurring Nicholas' imagination. It has been really interesting watching them grow up together. In some ways they have progressed very similarly, mastering most major skills at around the same time and at this point are comparable in speech, gross motor skills, and comprehension. But from very early on it was clear that Alice was much more imaginative and Nicholas was much more rule-oriented and systematic. But Nicholas enjoys imaginative play, as long as he has someone else to make things up whose lead he can follow--he needs someone else to set the "rules" as it were. So once Alice created the game of picnic, for example, Nicholas was all about taking their babies on a picnic and eating pretend sandwiches they had made.
He never ever would have come up with that on his own, however. I've noticed a difference in the last week, however, with him coming up with sillier things and being interested in helping me make up stories, so watching Alice and playing with her seems to have spurred at least a short-term burst of whatever part of the brain controls imagination. We need to get him more friends with that gene, because neither Joe nor I is able to do much with it--we are much more inclined to play games, which only reinforces the rule-following and logic that he already has in abundance.
Speaking of creativity and rule-following, Nicholas drew a self-portrait (or "a picture of me," as he called it) with chalk while we were there.
This drawing seriously impressed me because it demonstrates a lot more understanding of spatial relationships than I thought almost-3 year olds had. When I asked him about the picture he pointed out his head, two eyes, hair, legs, and feet. Can you identify them all?
It looks a little bit like a Martian to me, but I am still really impressed, even more because I had no idea he could make the mental connections to put those pieces together than for the fine motor skills.
I really, truly, absolutely do love my job, but I miss being close to my parents and our friends. I feel guilty for taking Nicholas away from these people he loves so much and who are such good, rocks of stability for him. And I miss having people around with whom I can just be completely myself because they have known me for so long and seen me at times when I was far from my best and so there is no longer anything to hide or any games to play.
But it is nice to know that you can go home again. And it warms my heart to see that the time away doesn't lessen the bonds Nicholas has. I guess I should have known better, seeing as my own grandparents and cousins were always so far away. But I also know that I always wished they were closer. But I will try to put the guilt aside and just look at these pictures and remember how close he is to his grandparents and to Alice, despite the distance.
Awesomesauce! Glad it was such a great trip!
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